If I have done something, wrong or right, and we find ourselves here then that thing is no longer irrelevant or insignificant. If it has brought you to this point of thinking "shall I say something to her or not?” Please just scream at me, laugh at me, make me angry, make me explain but let me share it with you so that we go back to normal.
We all have the right to feel, but to be able to attach the right emotion to our feeling is such a relief and clarity. And what is bizarre is that I have learnt this very recently, 2018 recently and already this one little life skill has explained so much (where would I be had I known this years ago… I ponder this as I reread my words). I thought for a long time, most of my life if I am honest, that I was angry; it turns out that I was not feeling anger at all, that it’s what I felt for such a long time because I got frustrated, this in turn festered each time it happened, over and over, again and again when I didn't talk.
Now after closing the lid on that box, then throwing away all the emotions, memories, people and situations in my life where no talking to each other was the normal, I can now address one little thing at a time and that allows me to understand what I am feeling with no prejudice or attachment of or to anything other than this moment, this hurt, this happiness.
I now realise I need to understand what the feeling is after years of attaching the wrong emotion to my feelings.
No matter how little... deal with those little things, because it is the little things that can destroy a heart over time.
TALK: Do not dismiss as not important, because THEY ARE MORE IMPORTANT than you could ever imagine.
If you feel a little feel that you just can't let go, it is your right, no matter how small or dismissive to others, to deal with it just as you want to.
You are way to important not to. People, each of us matter. xx